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Friday, November 25, 2011

Keuntungan Si Ibu Bapa apabila Anaknya meninggal sebelum Akhil(cukup umur) by Brunei fm on Tuesday, September 6, 2011 at 9:22am

“Lamanya di Barzakh itu ialah semenjak roh berpisah dari tubuh, semenjak meninggal dunia, sampai hari berbangkit”.“Bagi orang-orang yang beriman di Barzakh hanya terasa sebentar saja”.“Semasa di padang Masyhar, diriwayatkan bahawa anak-anak kaum muslimin yang meninggal dunia sebelum mencapai usia baligh, akan dizinkan memberi minum kepada ibu-bapa mereka. Anak-anak ini akan menyusup di antara orang ramai dengan membawa minuman untuk ibu-bapa mereka, sementara manusia ketika itu dalam keadaan dahaga yang luar biasa”.“Anak-anak yang mati sebelum baligh menyambut ayah-bondanya di pintu syurga”.“Anak-anak Muslim yang meninggal di waktu kecil, ertinya sebelum baligh di Barzakh dikumpulkan pada suatu tempat dan diasuh oleh Nabi Ibrahim. Setelah kiamat nanti mereka itu langsung dipindahkan ke syurga akhirat. Jadi mereka ini tidak mengalami panas matahari, tidak melalui hisab, iaitu pengadilan di Mahkamah Rabbul-Jali. Tidak melalui mizan, dan tidak meniti Titian Shirathal-Mustakim yang terbentang di punggung api Neraka Jahannam itu. Mereka ini setelah dibangkitkan langsung dipindahkan ke dalam syurga Jannatun Naim”.“Setelah dipindahkan ke dalam syurga, maka anak-anak ini lupa kepada kehidupan dunia. Mereka lupa kepada ayah dan bondanya, lupa kepada kampong halamannya, lupa semuanya. Pada suatu hari nanti, ketika mereka sedang bermain-main menikmati kesenangan syurga, tiba-tiba ada malaikat memberitahukan: Hai Wildan (anak-anak yang mati sebelum baligh), lupakah engkau kepada ayah-bondamu? Sekarang mereka sudah berada di pintu syurga. Ketika itulah baru mereka tahu dan ingat kembali kepada ayah-bonda mereka yang selama ini mereka lupakan”.“Lalu mereka ambil air untuk diminum, makanan dan pakaian, lantas mereka itu berlari-lari sambil menangis menuju pintu syurga”.“Setelah terompet berbunyi, pintu syurga terbuka, maka sekalian orang berhamburan masuk ke dalam syurga itu, dan ketika itulah anak-anak ini sibuk mencari ayah-bondanya. Mereka berjalan ke sana-sini mencari tetapi tidak berjumpa. Sambil menangis membawa minuman, pergilah mereka kepada malaikat menanyakan: Oh, Malaikat, mana ayah dan bondaku? Kata mereka sambil menangis”.”Malaikat menjawab: Oh wildan, malang kamu, ayah dan bondamu terjatuh ke dalam neraka. Mendengar hal yang demikian maka anak-anak ini menangis dengan ratapan yang menyayat hati. Oh ibuku, Oh ayahku. Apakah kesalahanmu, ayah. Apa dosamu, ibu, maka sampai terjatuh ke dalam neraka. Mereka menangis dan meratap”.“Kata malaikat: Hai Wildan, jangan menangis, mengadulah kepada Nabi Muhammad SAW”.“Setelah anak-anak ini mengadu kepada Nabi Muhammad, lantas Nabi mengangkat kedua tangannya berdoa, lalu dikeluarkan orang-orang mukmin yang berada di dalam neraka itu”.“Setelah bertemu dengan anak dipintu syurga anak yang meninggal di waktu masih kecil, yang menjadi kerinduan siang malam selama ini, aduh gembiranya tidak terhingga. Berfirman Allah SWT dalam Al-Quran:”Pada hari itu mereka berjumpa dalam keadaan gembira.(Ad-Dahr: 11)

Subhanallah...ALHAMDULILAH.. The almighty really fulfilled His promise as arRahman arRahim towards me and hubby...
Having the said thought, I wonder why was I so disgrace to all nikmat and rahmat as stated in surah al Rahman, (55 : 14 )


Thursday, November 24, 2011


I was pregnant, we were very excited and looking forward to meeting this new person. The next 9 months went as smooth as could be with no complications, other than mild heartburn on my part. On December 12, 2010 Muhammad Ghaziy arrived into the world and our hearts.

From the very first he was so sweet, easy going, and peaceful. Everyone commented on how calm and beautiful he was and we all noticed how he had a cute chin. That December was the warmest on record and Ghaziy and I enjoyed every minute by going through our confinement period looking at the sunshine or look at the leaves from the sliding door of my sis in law home.

I went through a great and precious moment nursing and caring for Ghaziy. There were a lot of chemistry shared between us..more than I could ever imagine. resuming my work life made me misses the little guy more. I juggle a tight schedule of appointments and to be home as early as I could afford as the nanny would said, "Haaa.. Ghaziy looks happier and more cheerful once he listened to ibu and ayah's gave Salam". that's a miracle shown by Ghaziy. Merely calling his name during his nap will caused him to wake up and granting you a sincere smile. People will earn his delightful smile whenever they greet him with Salam. Nevertheles, a child could never be a child if he has no tantrum. Ghaziy loves to ride in a car or even his stroller. However, his problem was, he ain't favor the vehicle to slow down or worst, stop. Not even stopping for a red light. The moment the car continues to move, he would turn back to his calm face and indulge the scene from his window.

My hubby and I regularly has anxiety towards our son's light transmitted sound as if he's having flu. I would always refer the issue to pediatrician however they said it was normal and will go away on its own. The sound will disappear if he's sound asleep but never stop when he's awake. So, we used the salt water to clean his nose but the problem never solved. We continue praying that it will go away. Another anxiety was Ghaziy's movement. There was no movement on his lower body and he could only afford to move his hand slightly. I tried not to have the idea of him turning to be a person with deficiency. I was trying very hard not to be emotional when my parent and siblings speak up their anxiousness on my baby's development. Until I told my husband that I don't give a care to what people will say, Ghaziy is my child regardless that he abnormal, regardless he couldn't walk or move. I cried at my husband's shoulder and we end up the next day at our pediatrician which he finally referred us to Pediatric neurologists. Wee made appointments on 28th of April 2011 and we were scheduled to meet the specialists by 31st May 2011.However, on May, 1st it all changed as Ghaziy turned blue at my sis in law's house in Keramat. We were rushed to the nearest family clinic where he was assisted with oxygen until the ambulance took us to the emergency unit of Hospital Kuala Lumpur.

Over the course of the next 4 hours we watched helplessly as Ghaziy endured countless trials of finding his vein to insert medication line, and his last feeding was 8 hours ago which he barely had about an once of his milk. Finally the on-call doctor stopped her attempt and allow him to be fed but through a tube. He was asleep until 4 in the morning his heart rate went high and oxygen reading shows a dissatisfying number. Hence, he took a trip to the ICU. At that moment I lost words, I don't even know how to react. My world became blurry. The only thing I remembered doing was praying hard. We also prayed more than we had in our entire lives that this was just a horrible mistake and went through more Kleenex than you can imagine. You need to understand that hubby and I had no clue that anything was wrong, Ghaziy was responding, he could coo, he could smile, and his face, particularly his eyes, was always expressive. Then on May 3rd, the bottom of our world fell out. Our neurologist, told us that Ghaziy had SMA or Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 1.

Hubby and I were devastated by the news, as you can imagine. Here we were one minute thinking our lives were perfect, only to be told that our sons life could be measured in days, but definitely would be only a few months. All our dreams, hopes, and wishes for this wonderful person were crushed in an instant. Everyday now became a priority of helping him have quality of life for the time he had left and trying to enjoy every minute that we were blessed with his presence.

We were fortunate to be able to care for him daily even though I wasn't allow to spend my nights with him. I started to get familiarized with machines to help him feed, suction machines, a machine to help us feed him when the time came, machines that monitored his oxygen levels, and then finally a biPap which became his best friend forever for the rest of his life. The time in the hospital had weakened Ghaziy, but caring for him was not much different at first. We were fortunate in that we could hold him, teasing him, play peek-a-boo, watching movies, play iPad games, and we could just spend time together. As he would get distressed, and get very sweaty from working so hard to breath, we knew that he was weakening. Fortunately, I was still able to take afternoon nap and lay my head next to him . I loved falling asleep looking at that sweet face smiling at me with those soulful eyes and I hope that he loved it too.

Eventually, the only times we got to hold Ghaziy was when doctors finished their rounds just to avoid any false alarm that he might be in distressed and after maghrib prayer; believe me we savored those few moments. Then in early July, 2011, as we celebrated his 7-month birthday, he got to smile more and to coo a lil bit louder. I truly misses his smiles. A single smile from him feels like a dime and it'll bring peace of mind whenever looking at him.

When we eventually lost Ghaziy he was unlike other SMA patients I used to read where they reached the point that they could not be on the respirator and balance his oxygen levels, and yet could not be off it without getting into distress. He was playing with us that beautiful morning when he suddenly stare down looking tired and he just fall asleep. He left us with his signature smile that we would never be able to forget and we could never share in words with public. We were blessed that we got the chance to hold Ghaziy and tell him how much we loved him as he passed from our lives on November, 15 2011.

Most parents with infants worry about waking up at 3 a.m. and having to settle or feed a crying baby. Hubby and I worried about waking up to phone calls and having to learn that it's nothing but a miscall from strangers. There were several times when both of us thought that we would not be able to, but this tough, brave boy would fight for just one more day. It is hard to describe the constant panic that you feel every moment of everyday. It is heart wrenching to watch your child go through such a horrible de-progression and watch this bright mind have to be trapped in an uncooperative body. Hubby and I had many moments where we thought of all that we would miss with Ghaziy, but mostly what he would miss out on. Simple things like walking, eating solid food, riding a bike, fly-fishing, going to school, feeling the ocean on his feet, falling in love and having children, even just being able to laugh. But then this wonderful, beautiful, bright boy would look at us with the greatest, most loving eyes we have ever seen and we would think of everything he could do. Like making us slow down and enjoy the simple, quiet moments. He made us appreciate the beauty around us, within us, and in others. Most of all he could brighten a room with just one look, or one smile. I honestly know very few people who can do that.

Ghaziy truly was the most courageous, peaceful, sweet person that we have ever had the pleasure of knowing. He really did teach all of us to take each day as it comes, to be patient, not to take anything or anyone for granted, and finally to realize that it is not the amount of breaths you take, but truly the moments that take your breath away that matter. We are better people for having known him, we are so honored and blessed to have been his parents, and we will miss him everyday. We know that he is in a better place and he is free from the chains that trapped him in this life, and for that we are thankful.

We miss you our brave boy and we love you, now and forever~

Ayah & Ibu

Friday, November 4, 2011

Stepping out from the cloudy mood

Salam... My motivation is a bit low for the past few days. Perhaps too much spending time in the hospital and witnessing many babies admitted on the same batch with Ghaziy moved on to the eternity land caused me to be demotivated.

There's a baby who was admitted to Ghaziy's ward last 3 months. A baby boy with a young parents who accompanied him throughout his days. He was a year plus with liver failure. He looked uncomfortable as his tummy growing day by day. He passed away last month.

Another baby by the name Danish who never see the sunlight also lost his battle due to multiple organs failure.

A boy named Amsya Isra' was also a child filled with strong will of a survivor. Fighting with heart failure on top of liver issues made him one strong little fella to survived for nearly a year despite his heart stopped for several times before he actually took his last breath.

And recently a girl who's been struggling with leukemia came for her routine checkup passed away the next day. I could still remember her voice calling for her father whenever he stood a bit far from her bed. She died the next morning when I got in the ward.

Yesterday there's a one year and a half girl, daughter to a very young couple lost her battle with liver cancer during operation to remove the cancer.

Those are the children who had been chosen by Allah that always reminds me that I may soon lost my Ghaziy. Knowing and looking at how they battled themselves in surviving their illness makes my heart shattered when they return to the Creator. My heart breaks each time I listened to their pain and uncomfortable cries. Finally they end their journey to be in a far better place. Al Fatihah to arwah Danish, Amsya, Jasri, Humairah, Orin, Shami and to our dear friend Kaeshav may he rest in peace.

That's another challenge and obstacle I need to overcome. It was tough, oh perhaps the toughest among all challenges that I'm facing. Prayers are the best medicine to it. Regardless that I've been telling myself that I've accepted what Allah has destined me and Ghaziy there'll be time my emotion got interfered and influenced by negativity.

My husband will disapprove me talking about this as he will always trying his best to make full of my mind with optimist and positive input and will always make me realize that whenever the challenge is unbearable we must always return to our Creator's will and insyaallah the hikmah is there. Alhamdulillah Allah wrote in my qadha and Qadar to be married to my dear husband. He'll be the person who'll lift me up when I fall into the deep sadness thinking of my baby's future. He won't be bored by my melancholy attitude in dealing with our son's issues. I hope and pray he'll always be by my side cause nobody could ever replaced him.

P/s: to my dear follower Nad. You're a strong lady who had been chose by Allah to outcome His test. No matter what people say and comment only take those that are optimist and to leave those that perish your soul. What you lost today is what warrants you in the hereafter, insyaallah...